Flirting has become incredibly important in today’s society. In the 19th century, marriages and relationships were forced or arranged by family and there was no need for flirting.
It wasn’t until after the 19th century that men and women started to step out of their community and traditions and it became their job to figure out their relationships. Around the 1950′s, men and women started needing to have and develop basic flirting skills.
Around the 80′s, it became clear that if you wanted to be successful with women you needed to have flirting skills. By the 20th century, flirting had become the determining factor in a man’s success with women. Now-a-days, if you want to be successful with women, you must be able to flirt in your texting, text messages, conversations and body language.
First, before we jump into the flirting tips, let me point out that if you are having poor success with women it doesn’t have to be that way – it’s just a lack of knowledge. Learning and applying the right flirting tips will have a huge impact on what women you attract into your life. I’ve seen it happen hundreds of times.
These flirting tips have been used in my coaching seminars and proven to bring results. The best thing to do is try new things until you find what works. Enjoy these flirting tips:
Flirting Tips #1 – Have Physical Connection
You need to start communicating through physical communication. Flirting with physical communication is much more powerful than flirting through verbal communication. The first step, is to touch/grab her hand. I do this by seeing something interesting and then grabbing her hand to get her attention and point it out. Another easy way is if you are in a crowded scene and you move somewhere else, grab her hand and take her there instead of just having her follow. Palm reading also works. When I’m holding her hand, I will gently squeeze it and then toss it away as if she said something that could be offensive in some little way. She will feel that empty void on her hand after that and want to feel it again. You could also playfully slap her hand away if she is grabbing for something.
Once you have initiated the touch you need to be aware if she touches you back. If she does, that’s a strong indicator that she feels safe around you and that you can keep progressing the interaction. If she doesn’t, consider backing off.
Flirting Tips #2 – Leave on a high – get her laughing
Your ending is the most important part in a conversation. It’s like when you take clay and mold it, but the only thing that really makes a long-term impact is what that clay ends off hardening into.
For example, if you are planning on meeting up, don’t end off saying, “ya we will see you then, bye.” You want to end off with her laughing. So instead, say something like, “yeah just try not to embarrass me.” or “Don’t forget to paint your toe nails.” or “This is where you say you can’t wait to see me and hope you can keep your hands to yourself.”
Flirting Tips #3 – Remember to always qualify
Men seem to struggle with this. The goal is not to sell yourself, but instead take the position of being sold to. This is a much better position and it’s the only way exceptional women are going to want you.
Some ways to qualify is to ask her questions about something she is wearing or something she did or is doing, and then really listen to her response, “That’s a cool necklace, did you get it traveling?” Another great flirting tip when qualifying is to turn the tables by taking the role that women like to take, “So are you going to ask me out or what?” or “You didn’t just tell me you liked hiking to get me to like you, did you?” Just remember to always give your approval when interacting.
Flirting Tips #4 – Props
This is a very easy one and it works really well for flirting. First understand that women search for tips on flirting with men 3 times more than men do. It’s because women want to flirt with men, but wouldn’t know what to say if they approached you. If you were to have something (a prop) to talk about, women would feel much more comfortable approaching you. Remember, when you are talking, you can have a set prop that you can use to be flirty instead of having to shoot into the wind all the time.
You could use a bandanna that hangs out of your pocket or a hat that stands out, a shirt that says something funny, etc. Then if a girl asks about your bandanna you can say, “I don’t think you can handle it.” Then you can go into a made up story or just say “it’s to match my shoes what do you think?”
Flirting Tips #5 – Flirt through texting
Being successful with women is becoming easier and easier for men. Why? Because communication through text messaging, emails, and SMS text messages has became such an integral part in everyday communication. This is a gold mine for men. It gives you time to compose the right message (which also improves your real world flirting). You can also interact with more than one woman at once to increase your chances and build your confidence. Most importantly, texting and text messages cut out all the attraction triggers that often times hurt your chances, such as clothes, smile, breath, hair, etc. All you’re left with are words and timing.
Once you get the right words at the right time, you can expect a ton of success with women. And since most men fail at flirting in texting, you will stand above the rest, and you’ll see a lot of women responding desirably to you.
